Dear World: I Think I Gaslit Myself Into Productivity

10/09/2025

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  1. Elle Wolfe says:

    Omg, what is that fog that comes over us when we are waiting for a service person to come and do stuff??? It’s like we don’t want to get in the zone of doing anything then get interrupted. And when they don’t show we’re even more pissed off! It’s like we were held up twice. Once for not doing anything and second for thinking about all the stuff we could be doing instead of waiting! 😂

    Your wallpaper looks great, btw!!! I love it. Nice and moody.

    • Ash Ambirge says:

      That is 100% what I experience, ALWAYS. And, weirdly? It also tends to happen to me even if I have afternoon meetings. Like, just knowing that the meeting is happening and I am “waiting” for it, in a way, distracts me. Isn’t that weird?! Just me?!?!

      • Elle Wolfe says:

        Same. If I have a doctors appt at 1. I can’t get anything done before I have to leave to go to it. I can get stuff done when I return but it’s 3pm by then and the whole day is shot. 😳

  2. Kari Roetman says:

    What is it with no-show contractors? How do the bastages stay in business? We’ve had an invisible “tree guy” who spent the entire summer not “swinging by to take a look” at our questionable tree despite multiple messages that he would be swinging by to look at it. It’s farging fall now. ARGH.

    • Ash Ambirge says:

      I DON’T KNOWWW! I swear I’m half tempted to start my own home construction company, led by all chicks (and at least one with a spreadsheet LOL), just so we can get shit done and stop the insanity. 🤣

      Side note: I have had many trees taken down on this property by now, and I completely get why you’re worried! My guy charges $1500 a day, and the last time it took a whole day to get down this HUGE HUGE HUGE old tree in the front, plus another smaller tree on the other side of the road. Not sure if that pricing is anything similar to where you are, but the more you know!

  3. Nicki Kane says:

    I’m invested in the door saga now- please keep the updates coming!!! Also my (undiagnosed-but-pretty-sure) neurospicy brain just looked at that list and recognises a normal Tuesday when it sees it! 😂 I swear my life is one long saga of side quests- but somehow the main storyline does actually get done!!!

    • Ash Ambirge says:

      Oh, THE DOOR CONTENT IS COMING!!!!!!! LOOOOOLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!! A Sunday thriller, in your inbox real, real soon. 🤣

    • Jessica Kupferman says:

      Was going to say the same thing. That is ADHD classic procrastination if I ever saw it, and most of the reason I don’t work out in the morning is bc I’ll have to shower after, and I have to get dressed all the way first thing to let the dog out, and then I’ll have to get undressed and redressed TWO MORE TIMES if I go to the gym, and how did you even find time for wallpaper lol

      • Ash Ambirge says:

        CAN RELATE SO HARD!!!!!!!!!! lollllllll!!!!!! This is why I never shower until noon: too many things wouldn’t get done if I did it first thing!

        *flashes back to college when I would get up, go to gym, sweat like crazy, and then come back and shower without washing hair, but just blowdry the bottom of hair, like this was a fine way to operate, LOLLLLL*

  4. Susmitha says:

    Sooo…that plumber gets the good karma of hanging up your wallpaper right? 😛

  5. Evolet Yvaine says:

    Now see, my “Wanda Sykes” personality comes out when service people ghost me. The company gets a phone call, “Wanda” asks for the supervisor… and then all hell breaks loose. LOL

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